Walk #36 News

Leader: Nick Weisgerber
Dates: October 6-9, 2016
Kairos Neal #35

Reminders and Info

posted Sep 27, 2016, 6:30 AM by Seth Trujillo

Hello family. 

 

I just wanted to share a little bit as we head into this last team meeting and then on to the Kairos Weekend. IT might be longer, actually it IS CERTAINLY longer than Nick’s emails, so just go with it. J Life is busy. If anyone understands this, we do. So let me issue a challenge to you all. For the minute or so that it takes you to read this email, add a couple of minutes after you read it to just simply lift up the weekend. If you would lift up the team, the men in white, the unit, the staff at the unit, the logistics that it takes to run the weekend, for the De Falco staff, etc. Just lift up these things and ask God to have his way. 

 

Nick and I are so very thankful for your commitment to this team, but beyond that, to the Lord. We know that it takes sacrifice to make it happen. We understand how difficult it can be to “make it work”. I have been guilty of this the last month or so with Kairos. How are we going to make it all work? Whether it be our girls and their needs with school/sleeping arrangements/rides/etc.  or all the endless lists and paperwork to weed through and prepare, groceries to buy, SO many details that so many have no idea about. God gently reminds me that I don’t have to make it work, he already has it planned out. He knows all that has to get done, all the needs we have in our families, the ailments our bodies suffer, the things we struggle with, our jobs, activities, even other ministries. We know that God is going to provide and make a way when we think there is no way. I know that God is using the things we think are in the way, to actually force us to depend on him more, to rely on his strength and trust that in our weakness (our struggle) he truly is strong. He’s got this. He’s good. He’s aware and He is making the way.

 

I have a few things I wanted to remind you all of:

 

Writing letters yet? I haven’t haha! I’m telling you when I say things are busy, I’m not lying. Things are nuts. The letters are so special though and I know that getting those done will be a huge blessing to so many of the men in white. Just a shout out to anyone who isn’t done yet or hasn’t started. Solidarity. J

 

Team Fees- Money. The enemy uses it to stress us out, get us frustrated and over all upset. We either don’t have enough or we’re trying to save some. Team fees are never meant to stress you out or frustrate you. Team fees are just a part of the ministry. We obviously feed 50+ people 3 meals a day for basically 3 days. It takes funds to buy food, it takes money to buy cookies, it takes money to rent De Falco. God wants us to serve and it seems like giving of our precious time would be enough, but I know he is asking us to trust him and serve with our money as well. Some families are struggling desperately and God knows that. Some families are doing well and are not struggling and can give a bit extra. Wherever you find yourself and your family, be obedient. God will bless you beyond the team fee for trusting and obeying Him with the money. If the team fee is an absolute issue, please don’t let it hinder you from working. Just also, trust and ask for God to have his way and make his way with each detail. J

$320 – couple  $185 – single person

 

Kids Agape Letters- please bring colored pages/letters from children. No stickers, no glue, glitter, etc. First names only. God uses these precious letters to bring love to the men in white.

 

Meal Cards- If you have taken meal tickets to get sponsored, please bring those with you Saturday to the meeting. You can bring them to the actual weekend as well. We still have some left if you want to get more this weekend and get more sponsorships before the Kairos. We suggest $5.00 donation per card.

 

Consecration Meal- THURSDAY night of the Kairos, when the team comes back from the unit. We will be having Mexican Pile On. We try to include this meal in the team fee, but any donations will not be turned away. We will have a nice time of eating together and then a time of prayer for the men in white and the team following the meal.

THIS MEAL IS FOR YOU AND IF YOU HAVE A SPOUSE. PLEASE INVITE AND ENCOURAGE YOUR SPOUSE TO ATTEND THIS MEAL AND PRAYER TIME. I am still waiting to hear back on a possible childcare situation and I will inform you of that as soon as I have it lined out in detail. 

 

TDCJ Training: Thursday of the Kairos at De Falco. 10:00am. Please check online to see if you are eligible to take it online. That is an easy way to get your training done. That is only available every other time you need the training, so attend the training at De Falco otherwise. 

 

Nick and I are so very thankful for you. We are here for you if we can do anything or pray for you, please let us know.

Thank you for serving. Thank you for being who you are. We look forward to Saturday and then the Kairos weekend ahead!

 

Blessings.

Shaina Weisgerber

All Aboard!!!

posted Sep 22, 2016, 8:34 AM by Seth Trujillo

Good afternoon Church!

This Saturday at 8:30 will be our last meeting. More than anything I need you to be there. Most of you who have talks have confirmed to me that you are ready but if you haven't please let me know. We should have 6 talks to review so we definitely need people present to review them. 

If this is your FIRST kairos and you haven't filled out a TDCJ form, I need it, or, at the very least I need your DL Number and your name as it appears on your license.

If you have anyone to add to the closing list I need their name and license number.

We need your team fee, or to make arrangements.

Most of all I need you to pray. I need you to pray for the participants, for the institution, for the volunteers, and for me and Shaina. As we attempt to sew seeds of good on fertile ground, evil will attack, with storms, doubt, and obstacles. Pray for protection, clarity, and focus as we approach October.

Beautiful are the feet that bring good news. God bless you servant. See you soon.

Nick Weisgerber  

Message From the Quarterback

posted Sep 1, 2016, 11:49 AM by Seth Trujillo

Football season is upon us once again and for me that means the October Kairos is right around the corner. I have had several people tell me that they are not quite sure what their role is going into this weekend. We are running a play. It's not a trick play, or a hail Mary pass out of desperation. It's a reliable one. Out of the shotgun, four wide receivers with a half-back option. It can result in a touchdown, or just a few yards at a time, but either way, this play consistently yields positive results. We don't all know the master plan of the coaches offensive strategy, we only need to know our job. "make an opening in the defense, get to this spot and look for a pass, guard your man, ...push." This training guide describes every position at the table. This is how you "push". 


Training Guide

Table Family Leader

Job Description

The Table Leader guides the discussions at the table by encouraging the Participants

to share their thoughts, and to participate in the projects. The Leader is NOT to be

the discussion leader, and their verbal input should be kept to a minimum.


Training Hints

1. Family Workers primary duty is to lovingly lead and direct the participants through the

materials presented on the weekend.

2. A servant’s heart and attitude are essential.

3. You are acting as Jesus’ apostles, so FREQUENTLY ask Him for help and guidance

(pray, alone and together as family workers).

4. How should a family worker act?

a. Be mature in demeanor and attitude. Immaturity, pranksters or class clowns

have no place on a table. If you see it, squelch it! There are lots of other

opportunities for fun. Table discussions are serious.

b. Set the example by taking plentiful, copious notes - you are an example to the

Participants!

c. Carefully observe the Participants at the table. Watch for any signs of writing

problems. Offer to copy notes for anyone who might have a literacy or physical

problem.

5. Table discussion is the most important dynamic of the weekend:

a. Make sure that everyone has a chance to share.

b. The most frequent mistake of a family worker is talking too much, or if clergy,

preaching too much.

c. Your job is to Listen, Listen, and Listen! You are not the "answer man."

d. On the first day of talks especially, let the Participants express themselves. If

no one begins discussion, the Family Leader should open with a question.

e. Be alert and aware of what is being said at discussions and by whom. Hints

regarding the need for counseling or the need for spiritual direction might occur

during discussion.

f. Be open and honest about yourself. Show concern and compassion.

g. Direct your concerns to the Family Leader who will direct them to the team

leadership. ONLY CLERGY ARE TO DO COUNSELING OR SPIRITUAL

DIRECTION.

6. Poster time - Participants should be the ones to design and illustrate the main idea of

the talk. A family worker could help them get started. Family workers should not

actively participate unless no one else will respond to the task.

7. NEVER, NEVER leave the family without at least one family worker in attendance at

the table.

8. Except for REAL EMERGENCIES, no one is to leave the table for any reason during

talks or discussion times.

9. An overzealous talker may be handled by directing a question directly to a quieter

person. Asking “What do you think?” or “Is that your experience?” can stimulate

discussion.

10. On the last day, both the Participants and the team are tired.

a. Remain focused and alert.

b. No yawning or complaining.

c. Sunday morning talks deserve the same enthusiasm and attention as the

others.

11. Each night, review this Training Guide. Review the logistical details for the

Forgiveness Windup, the Prayer & Share role play, and the Prayer Circle that are detailed

later in this training guide. Always ask team leadership questions if you are unsure of

how anything is to proceed.

12. When in doubt about ANYTHING, read your Kairos manual! Consult team leadership!

13. Ten Commandments for Family Workers:


1. Speak to the Participants

There is nothing as nice as a cheerful work of greeting.

2. Smile at the Participants

It takes 72 muscles to frown, only 14 to smile!

3. Call the Participants by name

The sweetest music to anyone’s ears is the sound of their own name!

4. Be friendly and helpful

If you would have friends, be friendly!

5. Be cordial

Speak and act as if everything you do were genuine pleasure.

6. Be genuinely interested in each person

You can like nearly everybody if you try.

7. Be generous with praise

Be cautious with criticism.

8. Be considerate with the feelings of others

It will be appreciated. Have empathy.

9. Be thoughtful of the opinions of others

There are three sides to a controversy - yours, the other fellow’s and the right

one!

10. Be alert to give service

What counts in life is what we do for others!

14. Table Facilitation and the Development of Christian Community


INTRO:STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT

One way of understanding the behavior that takes place as we minister to participants at

Kairos tables is to know that Christian Community is developed through a predictable

series of stages. You are involved in those stages now, whether you are aware of it or

not, in every group you are part of, because they are a natural way that human beings

interact when they come together.


STAGE #1 = INCLUSION (Getting "in")

This stage takes the first day of the weekend (about 8 hours).

Participants, without being fully aware of it, spend Friday trying to get "in". We all

know the awful feeling of being "out". To break out of "out", participants are

asking themselves, "what must I do here to get "in"? And they are wondering if

they will be able to do, or willing to do, whatever it is that is expected of them.

Drawing posters, table discussions, and acceptance demonstrated by team

members, aids them in developing a sense of being accepted as "in".

The completion of each stage is marked by a celebration or "party". The poster

presentations provide an excellent vehicle for the party. The enthusiasm, humor

and energy we consistently see expressed at this time are a signal that the first

stage has been completed.


Team Members can Facilitate Development of this Stage by:

Being friendly, accepting, interested in, listening, making eye contact, and

personally doing all those "little things" that make others feel welcome. Listen

Listen Love Love is the perfect way to carry out this stage. Kairos has been

marvelously designed to facilitate movement through the stages of developing

Christian Community!

When you notice participants in late afternoon who still seem to be feeling “out”,

share your own discomfort in situations where you feel “out”, and invite them to

share what they are feeling. Talking about it is the most helpful thing you can do.

Be supportive & understanding.


STAGE 2 = CONTROL / POWER / INFLUENCE

Beginning Saturday morning, a new dynamic is usually apparent. It is marked by

attempts to exert some control, power or influence to see where the power

boundaries are between those at the table.

Power relationships are measured by what happens when people disagree with

each other. Therefore Saturday is often a time of disagreement, or even outright

conflict. Depending on the personalities gathered at the table, the conflict might

be carried out in very constructive, leadership kinds of ways, or might be

confrontative and belligerent ways, or it might even be carried out in soft,

humorous, pleasant ways. Groups who have no power oriented members

sometimes even slide right through this period with no awareness of conflict. This

stage is resolved when all members have learned that the group will listen to

them and they can consequently influence the group.

The chapel prayer visits with the “we” prayer are a wonderful vehicle for praying

about conflict that might be present, and the burning (or drowning) of the

unforgiveness lists, followed by open mike, are a wonderful celebration & party

that resolves the conflict of this stage.


Team Members can Facilitate Development of this Stage by:

Knowing that the conflicts and disagreements that develop on Saturday should

not be taken personally. They are simply an outgrowth of the human need to

understand the power relationships between people. There are several ways

team members can be helpful.

First, they be tolerant of a certain amount of disagreement. Don’t be too quick to

cut it off. It is through those disagreements that the participants finally work their

way through this stage. However, they should be prepared to interrupt

participants who are being too aggressive in arguing with the others, by playing

referee if necessary. We don't want others to be intimidated by the louder

members, so our role then is to interrupt, and quickly ask each to share their

view of the subject under discussion, paraphrasing and listening well so each

side knows they are being heard. Getting combatants to take turns allows the

discussion to go on rather than simply driving the conflict under the table.

Secondly, since less assertive members drop out of the conversation when

conflict breaks out, we need to invite them back into the discussion after the

conflict has been ended.

If on Sunday morning, you find a participant who is still being argumentative,

share your own discomfort with conflict and ask how the participant feels about

disagreement. Enabling them to talk about it is the most helpful thing you can

do. Be supportive & understanding.


STAGE 3 = CLOSENESS

Saturday late afternoon and Sunday morning brings the next stage, which is

marked by closeness, both emotionally and physically. Closeness is apparent

as hugging, touching, arms around shoulders, crying together while hugging,

even an occasional kiss on the cheek, demonstrates the new stage has arrived.

It is worth noting that each stage takes about 8 hours to develop, and Sunday in

the prison is often too short to fully complete the stage. There are two

considerations that result from ending Sunday before the stage has been fully

resolved:

One is that there are still some participants who are very uncomfortable with the

closeness and hugging, and are struggling with their negative feelings about it.

The other is that the participants over-estimate their ability to carry out Prayer &

Share Grouping and Christian-living in the prison environment. In the glow of

spirit- filled enthusiasm, it's hard to be realistic about the difficulties that lie

ahead. Therefore, this stage is typically resolved at the Instructional Reunion.

They've had a week or two to think about it, and they are likely to be ready for

loving closeness when the team arrives for the reunion.


Team Members can Facilitate Development of this Stage by:

Watching for participants who are swept along with the strong sense of

closeness, but who inwardly find the closeness stifling. Sweaty palms, racing

pulse, tightness in the chest and churning stomachs often result!

If not "rescued" by a team member who can spot the stress and be

understanding about the discomfort some people experience with unwanted

closeness, they may drop out on Sunday, or simply drop out of Kairos activities

in the prison.

We all know people who did not like their street weekend experience and who did

not become active in any fourth day activities. By a wide margin, the reason for

those unhappy weekend experiences comes from discomfort with the affection

and intimacy that is developed.

When you notice a participant who appears to be uncomfortable on Sunday,

share with them about a time when you felt uncomfortable in a group that

seemed to be too close, and ask what they are feeling. Enabling them to talk

about it is the most helpful thing you can do.


CONCLUSION

If the Team Formation process was completed, the team has completed the stages and

is ready for being good Christian Community models for the participants. If not, the table

family workers have just as much work to do in moving through the stages as the

participants do. In any case, now that the participants have joined the team, it is a new

community that needs to work through the stages together.

Table Family Workers can help the stages develop and be successfully completed by

doing and encouraging the appropriate behavior for each stage. If they are not aware of

the stages, they may do behavior that interferes with completion of one or more of the

stages and accidentally prevent achievement of Christian Community. As you move

through the weekend, watch the stages develop and be as helpful to each stage as you

can. At the end, they should be feeling like a completed Christian Community. And at the

Instructional Reunion, a close family- feel should be evident.

3 Meetings Left (including today)

posted Aug 19, 2016, 9:44 AM by Seth Trujillo

Hello Kairos Family

We only have three meetings left, so just a quick reminder

Friday(today) 6pm-9pm

Friday, September 9th 6pm-9pm

Saturday, September 24th 8:30am-noon

All at Family Life Church, 3900 SW 58th. Dinner will be provided by Kairos Outside and donations are appreciated. As always, childcare will be available. 

We ask team members to provide 42, handwritten letters of encouragement to be delivered on Saturday of the Kairos weekend. These can be short, long, all the same, or unique but save the pen you use as we will not have the complete list of participants until the weekend kicks off. Start now, and it will be no big deal.

If you have a talk I need to do talk previews at the last two meetings. Calling for volunteers for the September 24th meeting.

If you need TDCJ training it will be at the retreat center, Thursday morning October 6th.

Team fees are $185 per person and this includes your stay at Bishop Defalco Retreat Center. Please get team fees paid as soon as you can, and if it is too much of a burden let me know and we can get it handled. We have NEVER let a team fee stand in the way of a willing servant. 

We hope to see you soon!
God Bless

Nick and Shaina Weisgerber

Friday Team Meeting Followed By AC Meeting

posted Aug 18, 2016, 7:06 AM by Seth Trujillo

Looking forward to seeing you all Friday night for the 3rd team meeting for Neal #36 
We will have dinner provided by Kairos Outside and they would appreciate your donation to help support their upcoming walk.

We will have a time of worship, team building and the outside support team will break off and have some time together as well.

Childcare is available. Let me know if you'll need it.

We will be done by 9:00pm

If you're on the advisory council or would like to see what the AC does, then please stay after for a short meeting.

Love to all. Prayers for you all. See you tomorrow! 
Shaina

Support Team

posted Aug 18, 2016, 7:04 AM by Seth Trujillo

Hello Team! 

I hope and pray that this week is a blessing for you! As we prepare for the next couple of team meetings, I want to encourage you to be present as much as possible, ESPECIALLY if you are going to be on our outside support team. If you are going to be on our support team, which means you will volunteer at De Falco in ANY capacity over the course of the Kairos weekend, please be at our next few team meetings. We will engage in the team building aspects of the beginning part of each meeting and then there will be a couple of hours for our outside team to gather in order to go over the entire weekend, explain some processes, work on agape, spend time together in prayer and encouraging each other in our walks with Christ as well as our preparations for the  Kairos. 

Team, if you or your spouse, your friend or co-worker, etc have any questions at all, any reservations about the weekend, any needs at all, please let Nick or myself know! We are HERE FOR YOU! We want to help pave the way for this weekend to be an amazing experience for you individually and for your marriage and family as you pour yourselves out in service to the Lord. This is a ministry that is generational and it can be a big blessing to you and your spouse. 

I am here for y'all in any way I can be to help with any confusion, questions, concerns, etc. 
Guys of the team, please encourage your wives. Please let them know there is a place for you and her in this ministry. TOGETHER.  We would be so honored to serve alongside. 

Last, please be on the lookout for information regarding our Consecration Meal. I will be explaining this and giving you more details as we get closer to the weekend. The meal is a special time as a team to break bread together, enjoy each others' company and fellowship and then begin the weekend off in a special time of prayer and worship. Please know now that if your spouse cannot attend the weekend to serve, we want them at the consecration meal especially! This is a beautiful time of togetherness and we can't wait to enjoy it together. 

If you need meal cards for fundraising please let me know. I have some tshirts left as well! ($10)

Please bring part of or all of your team fee to the next few meetings. 


We love you and pray blessing and wellness over you all!

Shaina Weisgerber 

Neal 36 Team Meetings

posted Jul 12, 2016, 8:24 AM by Seth Trujillo   [ updated Jul 12, 2016, 12:39 PM ]

"Jesus come join us, as we seek your will for this community, in this environment..."


Hello church!

Just a few things;

Below is my complete meeting schedule the first being July 23rd 8:30am at Family Life Church, 3900 SW 58th. Please attend as many as you can because a team like this needs to prepare together and encourage each other.

Pray for the weekend. Pray for the residents as well as the staff and that God's perfect timing will not be hindered by us (me in particular)

and last, for past team members, there is a reunion this weekend, please be at the gate at 8 with your ID and name tag.  

I hope to see all of you soon!

Your Brother in Christ,
Nick Weisgerber

Fellowship, Informational Meeting, Meet and Greet, Food

posted Jul 5, 2016, 7:20 AM by Seth Trujillo   [ updated Jul 5, 2016, 7:21 AM ]

July 8th 5:30pm 
Family Life Church 
3900 SW 58th
 (across from the old YMCA/rotary ball fields) 

Thinking about THIS FRIDAY NIGHT and I'm excited to meet new people and also reconnect with many of you who have worked Kairos for years.

There is no need to sign up or bring anything at all!! We want you to come, with your spouse and children, to a fun evening of food and fellowship. Easy. Just come and be a part of the body of Christ as we reconnect, fellowship and begin to prepare for the October walk. 
Even if your spouse isn't working in October (although my prayer is that they will) please know that this event is for FAMILY! Bring your kids! We will have some light activities for them at the tables.

We will announce the meeting schedule, share our hearts for this ministry, pray for y'all and get excited about all the preparations for October.

The dates of the Kairos is October 6-9.

If you have any questions at all, please message Nick or me. We are here for y'all and want to make sure there is little to no confusion about the meeting process, weekend details, accommodations, preparations and TDCJ regulations. All of these things will be explained thoroughly.

Any prayer needs? Please let us know. We want to lift you up during this process.

Want to have your friends/family volunteer on this kairos? We want to meet them!

This is going to be a refining time, a refreshing time and yes, a busy time, but it is going to be God's Special Time and for that, we are excited and humbled to facilitate the logistics. Thankful for God's hand and his grace. 
Love,

Shaina Weisgerber
(Nick's personal secretary for Neal #36)

SEE YALL FRIDAY NIGHT!!!

July 8th 
5:30pm 
Family Life Church 
3900 SW 58th
(across from the old YMCA/rotary ball fields) 
Activities Room

Hamburgers/hotdogs 

Trimmings 
Chips 
Desserts 
Lemonade and tea

Fellowship/informational meeting/meet and greet

Shaina Weisgerber's photo.

July 8th Fellowship and Food

posted May 19, 2016, 6:36 AM by Seth Trujillo

Thinking of and praying for all of the ladies (and men too I suppose haha) that will say yes to God and serve on Neal #36!

Thankful for daughter time as we commit ourselves to this crazy season!

Pray about joining us in October! 
We will be having a summer gathering for anyone interested in working! New or veteran, we want you to join us on this adventure!

Put July 8th on the calendar for a time of fellowship, food and the beginning of an awesome season of planning, preparing, praying and anticipating all that God will do in October! More details to come!

Pray and then plan on hearing from Nick Weisgerber or myself in person about serving! 
Love you all! 
Shaina

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